Learning to Say “No”


So let us run the race that is before us and never give up. We should remove from our lives anything that would get in the way and the sin that so easily holds us back.
HEBREWS 12:1 NCV

Face facts: If you haven’t yet learned to say “No” —to say it politely, firmly, and often—you’re inviting untold stress into your life. Why? Because if you can’t say “No” (when appropriate) to family members, friends, or coworkers, you’ll find yourself overcommitted and underappreciated.

If you have trouble standing up for yourself, perhaps you’re afraid that you’ll be rejected. But here’s a tip: don’t worry too much about rejection, especially when you’re rejected for doing the right thing.

Pleasing other people is a good thing . . . up to a point. But you must never allow your “willingness to please” to interfere with your own good judgment or with God’s priorities.

God gave you a conscience for a reason: to inform you about the things you need to do as well as the things you don’t need to do. It’s up to you to follow your conscience wherever it may lead, even if it means making unpopular decisions. Your job, should you choose to accept it, is to be popular with God, not people.

Some of us would do more for the Lord if we did less.   ~Vance Havner

Many people never receive God’s best for them because they are addicted to the approval of others. ~Joyce Meyer

When we are set free from the bondage of pleasing others, when we are free from currying others’ favor and others’ approval—then no one will be able to make us miserable or dissatisfied. And then, if we know we have pleased God, contentment will be our consolation.   ~Kay Arthur

Don’t be addicted to approval. Follow your heart. Do what you believe God is telling you to do, and stand firm in Him and Him alone.   ~Joyce Meyer

TODAY’S PRAYER
Dear Lord, when I need to say no, give me the courage, the wisdom, and the strength to say it. Today and every day, help me follow my conscience, not the crowd. Amen

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  1. #1 by Carol - April 12th, 2009 at 02:15

    I don’t know why saying no is so hard for me. It seems like I have a lot of confusion about it. On the one hand I know I want to, but I don’t know what the motive is behind it. I both want contact and companionship, but not if it is uninvited. I am in a constant struggle with what is social interaction and companionship v. intrusion and unwanted attention. Help!

  2. #2 by meci - January 8th, 2010 at 12:49

    this is so true…i struggle with saying no too…for fear of rejection….i fear that if i say no people will just leave me….but thanks for the encouragement

  3. #3 by Cindy - February 18th, 2010 at 12:09

    Hi, I have had a long struggle to learn about boundaries, setting them, having people feel it is o k to cross over them, then have to tell them that “You have done something that I consider disrespectful. Please do not do that again,” At first I was shaking in my boots. But the boundary books by Dr. Henry Cloud and ?,excellent! Being women, we were sold a load of servanthood by society. You are only responsible for what is under your skin and young children. Besides, if someone gets mad because you will not be their slave, good. You deserve better friends!

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