Comments on: 7 Ways to Help Your Husband with His Anger

By: Cindy

Cindy — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 20:21:07 +0000

Bobbi, First you need to take care of yourself, so that you may enjoy the love and protection God has for you. What I have learned about abuse and explosive anger is abuse, is that his anger probably has nothing to do with you. I find a Christian counselor with abuse specialty will help you make the most progress. Finally, Focus on the Family has a book, Love must be tough. I think and hope you come across this comment and try the book. Powerful,loving and effective, I think anyway.

By: Bobbi

Bobbi — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 01:58:13 +0000

My husband of 41 years had been involved in porn and self stimuation for probably 31 of those years. I left him for 17 months and he finally admitted that he had a problem. He seemed to work on it diligently by attending recovery group specifically for sexually addiction men. He went to Celebrate Recovery and started a 12-step program. Everyone in his different groups were amazed at the progress he made. Finally, I was convinced to move back with him. After four months he went back to being his old self. I pleaded with him to take my emotions into consideration. I told him his conplusive nature and his anger would cause me to have a heart attack. How can a man regain a wife’s heart if he attacks it every day. Well, I finally did have that heart attack. He denied the fact that I suffered a heart attack even after I had a hand written note from the cardiologist. His anger was more then I could continue to bear. I have since left him. I find it difficult to even talk to him in a decent tone. I continue to look to the Lord for courage and strength to let go and let GOD. I pray everyday that I will grow in my faith in the Lord and trust what he has planned for me. I know this is the answer to my life. Thank you New Life for being there for people like myself.

By: L Geraci

L Geraci — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 18:17:14 +0000

THANK YOU. I love my husband of 21 years, and have lately grown exhausted with coping with his anger and bitterness and how it colors his perspective. As sad is the increasing distance between his life/interests and those of his family, including me and our two wonderful teenagers. The kids and I try to understand, we pray for, but we also must deal with the daily roller-coaster of not knowing what statement or behavior might trigger the next land mine, and the need for fairly steady vigilance and caution is exhausting. Your words of wisdom, God’s Word and strength, our church family and friends, and the counseling I will start for myself, and then start for my kids, will all help us stay well while we trust in God to do what he needs to do in my husband. I often meditate on James 1:2-4, and Jeremiah 29:11. God reigns!
Again, thank you for your steadfast work, and may God richly bless your ministry.