Comments on: 6 Ways to Develop Intimacy in Your Relationship http://newlifearticles.com/2008/02/6-ways-to-develop-intimacy-in-your-relationship/ Thu, 11 Mar 2010 02:45:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Snipercatt http://newlifearticles.com/2008/02/6-ways-to-develop-intimacy-in-your-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-309 Snipercatt Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:33:30 +0000 http://newlifearticles.com/?p=9#comment-309 Melissa makes several interesting points. Particularly her closing sentence about raising our children to live in healthy marriages! Sins of our generation pass unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate God. We become our own idols when we "do what feels good." God commands us to obey his commandments. When we don't, we replace God in our life with ourselves. If sons and daughters are raised in marriages that contain infidelity and adultery they will learn to perpetuate, or tolerate, that in their own marriages. Melissa makes the point about a spouse either being unable or unwilling to connect on an emotional level. Many have studied this and ponder if this is nature, or nurture? In reality, it doesn't matter, because through prayer and a willing heart, things can change. My husband entered our marriage with the full intention of infidelity. He chooses to live with the demons of Satan through sexual sin. I am learning to love my husband as a Christian loves their enemy. In reality, this battle is with Satan, not with my husband. I can not control the wind, but I can set the sail. Melissa makes several interesting points. Particularly her closing sentence about raising our children to live in healthy marriages!

Sins of our generation pass unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate God.

We become our own idols when we “do what feels good.” God commands us to obey his commandments. When we don’t, we replace God in our life with ourselves.

If sons and daughters are raised in marriages that contain infidelity and adultery they will learn to perpetuate, or tolerate, that in their own marriages.

Melissa makes the point about a spouse either being unable or unwilling to connect on an emotional level. Many have studied this and ponder if this is nature, or nurture? In reality, it doesn’t matter, because through prayer and a willing heart, things can change.

My husband entered our marriage with the full intention of infidelity. He chooses to live with the demons of Satan through sexual sin.

I am learning to love my husband as a Christian loves their enemy. In reality, this battle is with Satan, not with my husband. I can not control the wind, but I can set the sail.

]]> By: Melissa http://newlifearticles.com/2008/02/6-ways-to-develop-intimacy-in-your-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-198 Melissa Fri, 18 Sep 2009 16:25:23 +0000 http://newlifearticles.com/?p=9#comment-198 my husband and i struggle with this in our marriage now and have for the last fifteen years. I have noticed a difficulty in this area in the 6 years previously to our marriage and tried to communicate and understand our differences. I developed an insecurity and trust issue in my marriage very early due to my husbands unwillingness to change his ways after i voiced my discomforts, and in his mind and communication is he's not hiding anything and that's the way men are. I was young and tried to deal with these issues with voicing my dislikes and how i felt these are not appropriate for a married man and father, needless to say and long story short: i feel i was robbed of a healthy intimate relationship due to the lack of respect from my husband to live in a godly healthy marriage and my lack of respect to give myself what i new and felt i needed. As well as continue to give myself and my love the best i could and continue living life as a wife and mother. I had to continue living and loving because "isn't that marriage." I am angry with my self that i robbed myself and listened to my husband ,because i loved him and felt he was helping me, instead i feel now that was, his either unknown abilitiy to connect or selfish reasons of getting what he wants without connecting on a emotional level. This has been a big part of our marriage difficulties as well as not being able to connect in the same focus in our life. I'm still trying make this marriage work, but running out energy. I feel like i'm the one doing all the work, not good. My husband is very difficult because he feels i blame him for everything,i told him i'm not perfect and have faults, he has the larger faults with the most conflicting damage to the marriage. Being able to have a intimate relationship, you have to be able to give real love. I feel like i have lived in a fantasy world with my husband to meet his sexual needs and desires early in our marriage. Since i voiced i'm not comfortable with all of this and since we have had our children we have not been able to get on the right track. I just continue to hope to some resolution, but i can't change him, that is evident. Doing things for each other is okay,but it needs to be done with genuine heartfelt LOVE. When infidelity,trust, resentment, anger and other life stressors enter its makes it difficult to get in the right focus. Please pray to god for the resources and education we can give the future husbands and wives to live a healthy marriage. my husband and i struggle with this in our marriage now and have for the last fifteen years. I have noticed a difficulty in this area in the 6 years previously to our marriage and tried to communicate and understand our differences. I developed an insecurity and trust issue in my marriage very early due to my husbands unwillingness to change his ways after i voiced my discomforts, and in his mind and communication is he’s not hiding anything and that’s the way men are. I was young and tried to deal with these issues with voicing my dislikes and how i felt these are not appropriate for a married man and father, needless to say and long story short: i feel i was robbed of a healthy intimate relationship due to the lack of respect from my husband to live in a godly healthy marriage and my lack of respect to give myself what i new and felt i needed. As well as continue to give myself and my love the best i could and continue living life as a wife and mother. I had to continue living and loving because “isn’t that marriage.” I am angry with my self that i robbed myself and listened to my husband ,because i loved him and felt he was helping me, instead i feel now that was, his either unknown abilitiy to connect or selfish reasons of getting what he wants without connecting on a emotional level. This has been a big part of our marriage difficulties as well as not being able to connect in the same focus in our life. I’m still trying make this marriage work, but running out energy.
I feel like i’m the one doing all the work, not good. My husband is very difficult because he feels i blame him for everything,i told him i’m not perfect and have faults, he has the larger faults with the most conflicting damage to the marriage. Being able to have a intimate relationship, you have to be able to give real love. I feel like i have lived in a fantasy world with my husband to meet his sexual needs and desires early in our marriage. Since i voiced i’m not comfortable with all of this and since we have had our children we have not been able to get on the right track. I just continue to hope to some resolution, but i can’t change him, that is evident. Doing things for each other is okay,but it needs to be done with genuine heartfelt LOVE. When infidelity,trust, resentment, anger and other life stressors enter its makes it difficult to get in the right focus. Please pray to god for the resources and education we can give the future husbands and wives to live a healthy marriage.

]]> By: Mr_Sherief http://newlifearticles.com/2008/02/6-ways-to-develop-intimacy-in-your-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-40 Mr_Sherief Wed, 22 Apr 2009 16:26:27 +0000 http://newlifearticles.com/?p=9#comment-40 it so good steps to build intimacy in our relationship ,, I tried to translate it into arabic as much as I could ,, and soon I will put it in my website's articles in arabic ...... thanks so much it so good steps to build intimacy in our relationship ,, I tried to translate it into arabic as much as I could ,, and soon I will put it in my website’s articles in arabic …… thanks so much

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